Finding Courage to Live a Life of Joy

Living Well–One Day at a Time

Posted by on Jul 19, 2011 | 24 comments

Living Well–One Day at a Time

This morning, blogger Chris Brogan wrote post called “Day in the Life” in which he chronicled a “typical” day.  He encouraged his readers to do the same and so this is my response to that challenge.

Why?

First, though, I want to answer the question ‘why?’.  This blog is about business, personal development and communication. Why share what’s going on in my day?  Why care what’s going on in anyone else’s?

Two very important reasons.

1. I blog for connection.

2. I blog to spark a dialogue.

Human beings are curious creatures.  We like to find out about what others are doing, why and how they are doing it.  I guess it’s our way of feeling like we fit in (or don’t).

So…here goes.

Morning

I get up around 6:30 a.m. and spend the first 1/2 hour or so getting going. I force myself to avoid the computer, phone, etc., first thing, much like Chris does.

My mission is to live well and teach others to do the same. In that respect, I want to practice what I preach each moment of each day (as much as possible).

So, I am learning to be as “present” as possible as I’m transitioning from a mindset of employee to one of business owner. That said, I admit that this is often a messy process.  Each person has to learn how to live in their own way.

I spend a half hour to an hour reading something that will help me focus in the right direction. Right now, that is [easyazon-link asin=”0307335844″]The Exquisite Risk: Daring to Live an Authentic Life[/easyazon-link] by Mark Nepo. (affiliate link)

I also spend some time in meditation/prayer.

I am not as efficient as I would like to be.  I’m not as effective as I wish I were. But I am creating and I am shipping and I’m having an impact, and that, right now, is my singular goal.

I write for about 3-4 hours.  I’m working on a new e-book on learning to heed to call of intuition.  I also post 5 times a week on one blog and 2 times a week on another.

Brunch/Lunch – I generally eat the same thing each day. Since I work from home, I have fresh fruit over granola.

Afternoon

I check my e-mail and interact on social media.

I am by no means a social media pro. I just recently started on Twitter, for goodness’ sake! I usually read and comment on other blogs and support friends and colleagues.  I wish this were more organized and “task-like” but it’s not.  And I guess that’s how we generally interact with each other anyway…We don’t generally structure: 1-1:30 catch up with family, etc.

The major lesson I have learned (or am learning) is that social media is nearly omnipotent, but I have to tell it when it can intrude on my life or it will take over all of my productive time and energy.

After I catch up on what’s going on, I delve back into writing the book.

I’m also organizing a small “Master Class” right now focused around the principles laid out in my book, An Imperceptible Spark: Finding the Courage to Live a Life of Joy.

Evening

I generally prepare dinner and spend time with the better half in the evenings. I try to steer clear of TV but sometimes end up in front of it.  When I do, my guilty pleasures are Tosh.O and Chelsea Lately.  Mindless entertainment, but always useful for a good laugh, which is beneficial.

I end the night by making sure my posts are scheduled to publish appropriately the next day.  I may read a little more before bed, tweet a bit and then hit the hay about 11 or 11:30.

Caveat:

Like Chris said, there are always distractions. I welcome these, but try to direct them (instead of controlling them). I’ll take a stroll down to the local farmer’s market on Thursday morning. I may swing into the library for a few minutes to pick up a new book I want to read.

The reason I work so hard to create the life I want is for the flexibility to be able to live it. So, I never want to find myself living so busily that I can’t enjoy the journey.

No Dreaded Mondays

Yesterday, one of my friends on Facebook posted a “Ugh…another Monday” status update.

I was pleasantly surprised when it took me off-guard. I realized that I haven’t dreaded Monday in almost a year. My weeks flow into my weekends and they are filled with different activities, but I am living the life I set out to live.

I am living well! I guess, in my opinion, that’s reward in itself.

What about you? How do you spend your time/day? I’d love to hear your thoughts. What are the ways you work to live life well? How do you control the Social Media pull and distractions of your day?

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  1. Eleanor

    Hi Ryan,
    It was good to hear how your day goes, as you said we are curious beings and your post in the blogging mastermind caught me, I had to check it out.  I agree that a wee bit of mindless tv can give us a laugh, my tv at the moment is the history channel here in the uk, a couple of crazy shows on there 🙂
    Have another great day and your ebook sounds interesting, keep us posted!
    Eleanor 

  2. Eleanor

    Hi Ryan,
    It was good to hear how your day goes, as you said we are curious beings and your post in the blogging mastermind caught me, I had to check it out.  I agree that a wee bit of mindless tv can give us a laugh, my tv at the moment is the history channel here in the uk, a couple of crazy shows on there 🙂
    Have another great day and your ebook sounds interesting, keep us posted!
    Eleanor 

    • Steve Rice

      I love the history channel, Eleanor. The funny thing is that I’m most obsessed with European history and particular the British royal family (past, not present).

      I will definitely let you all know when my book is done. I hope to have it done by month’s end. But we will see.

  3. Eleanor

    Oops, Steve, got your name wrong..time for a break!
    Eleanor

  4. Eleanor

    Oops, Steve, got your name wrong..time for a break!
    Eleanor

  5. Kathy Rathbun

    Great post Steve. I struggle all the time with the desire to work from home and really invest in my freelance. It’s been a dream of mine for a few years, but fear keeps me from it. With a full time job and my better half, I don’t have the time to take on many “extra” jobs so investing in my business the way I want to isn’t happening. How did you decide to “really live” as you set out to? Was there a moment where you decided to pull the trigger. Or was it an easy decision to work from home?

    • Steve Rice

      Number 1. It IS scary. (ok, now that that is out of the way…)

      Here’s a tidbit I share in my book (that Jason actually shared with me). “You always know what to do. You may be afraid to do it, but you always know.”

      All the “stuff” you listed (job/relationship/money, etc) is real, but the excuses are not. They’re just tools of your fear. When you look at it that way, it’s easy to get clarity.

      What if you acknowledge your fear and the tools it’s using and asked different questions?

      For example…I’m scared to take a risk. I have a FT job. How can I find time to work on my side projects and not jeopardize my job?

      Here’s some possible answers that pop up for me…Carve out 5 hours/week to work uninterrupted. Be more strict with the time spent at work for FT job (ie leave on time as much as possible)

      How can I support my relationship and my business at the same time?

      Again. Communicate with the Sig. Other your intentions. Look for ways the SO can be incorporated into the business or can contribute to the “vision” of working from home…so it’s “our thing” not “my thing” (that’s taking me away from you)

      That’s how I started. I started writing my book at home after work on nights I wasn’t with SO. I did that for over a year before my life opened up in a way I could contribute all my energy to the project.

      There was a moment, though (hence the “spark” idea for my book title). For me that is the moment we decide that things will change. I started taking immediate action toward my goal even though my circumstances didn’t budge. But once I committed myself to the goal and continued to work as if it was going to be accomplished, then God started to move in amazing ways and life opened up for me (the move to WI, new job for SO, etc)

      The decision to work from home was different for me because I was “pushed” into it by life (but I’d already been working like hell before that happened).

      My main advice (sorry this is so long) is to take the step you can see. That’s the first insight from my book. And just keep doing that.

      Take the smallest step you can see and do that. Then take the next one. You’ll soon find yourself out on the road of life zooming along under the direction of your headlights…one 30-50 foot segment at a time. But you can go cross-country in the dark like that! The same with life!

      I’m thinking about doing a short master class on this topic from my book on G+ I’ll announce it if you’d like to join in. I think you’d enjoy it.

  6. Vincent Cervantes

    Fantastic post! Definitely sounds like my own schedule. Now when I’m asked, “What do you do all day?” I will direct folks to this post. 

  7. Vincent Cervantes

    Fantastic post! Definitely sounds like my own schedule. Now when I’m asked, “What do you do all day?” I will direct folks to this post. 

    • Steve Rice

      HAHA…I know what you do with your day! 😛 Seriously, though, I appreciate you stopping to comment, V. It is so helpful to have a partner in crime when I’m writing. Helps me feel like I”m not just sitting here alone creating. Appreciate you.

  8. Roy A. Ackerman, Ph.D., E.A.

    I use a graph to track my day (no, I don’t make it- my computer does- in concert with my phone sync).  Against my design.  To assure goals get met.
    This was great.

    • Steve Rice

      Wow, Roy…that’s a really effective tool. I bet it gives you great data to help you stay “on track,” though. I appreciate the kind words of support. I”m trying to learn how to let go in my life but still live directed. I don’t want to be a slave to my schedule (doubt that will ever happen anytime soon) but I don’t want to lose focus either.

  9. Danielle McGaw

    Wow – I wish my typical days were nearly that productive.  That’s something I’ve always struggled with though – structure.  I’m a gypsy at heart and I tend to be a little more random than I should be!

    • Steve Rice

      Dani,

      Thanks for stopping by. Well, I’m a gypsy at heart too…One day I realized that if *I* didn’t make things happen for myself, they wouldn’t get done.

      But I still struggle with being productive. I’m learning to let it go and follow my natural flow…and not worry so much but focus on the things that are vital for me, in the moment. It’s easier said than done, but it’s a better way to live, in my opinion.

      Random is just a label. Embrace it! Perhaps that’s the way you create best. 🙂 Other people judge what “should be” or “should do” but your heart is the only one you answer to! Be true to you and you’re well on your way!

  10. Suerae Stein

    Nice post Steve! It’s so true how distracting the social media side of life/business can be! I like how you say you direct these! I will have to try that. I make lists for my days and find on the days I don’t have a list that I get less done. Thank you for making me think about how I spend my day and what I might be able to do to make it more meaningful! ~Suerae

    • Steve Rice

      Suerae…thanks for stopping by and taking the time to engage. I do appreciate it and value the effort.

      Well, I should have indicated a caveat, as Chris did, that this is the ideal. It doesn’t always happen as I wish it would (as far as directing my efforts). For example, this morning, even when I was writing this post, it was the result of an e-mail I got from Chris of his new post…so obviously, I’d already broken my rule of starting the day without computer or phone. LOL

      I do agree with you on the list. I need to adopt this practice in a form that works for me because I know it helps me be more effective. But I need an actual physical list…written down. Hmmm…I’ll borrow that from you and you can borrow the other ideas from me! 🙂 Thanks again for stopping by!

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